Something special happened this past week that put my thoughts about modern love into perspective. At first, I did not understand why I was getting teary at work or how such a small gesture could have a deeper impact on my overall being. It may seem small and irrelevant to some people but to me, it was the greatest gift and something that should be felt more often especially from the ones closest to us, whether friends, family, or significant others.
This simple act was a belief. A belief in me, my brand, and my skills.
Now, it wasn’t as if I had not experienced this action before. I am truly lucky to have a support system that is available to me and is genuine in their care no matter how far away they are or the amount of time we spend apart. This act simply happened at a time when I needed it the most which was now.
Coming a person who is perfectionist, it’s very easy for me to get carried away with the excessive details that is everything in my life. When I set out to do something, it’s not half ass or unintentional. It’s very deliberate, sincere, and strategic. And like most people, recognition is something I crave from time to time when I follow through with an emotion, a task, or a gesture. I’m not speaking of praise or the opportunity to boast but an appreciation for something I put effort into.
This validation that I seek, however, always seems to be pointed in the wrong direction. It is either too early to be expected of someone or too long coming to expect any less. There was never a balance with me; always just stopping short of what was appropriate or needed. Something I consider a flaw.
But when I heard that one of the vendors that I work with constantly highly recommended me to a prospective client without me asking, I couldn’t help but to be speechless for a while.
Even though I believe the road to love ultimately starts with you, you must also understand what it means to be loved and recognize those acts among the facades. And one of the most important of all is a belief in not in only yourself but seeing that belief in others.
Lately, I have been investing too time in understanding why certain people in my life don’t believe in me and underestimating the ones that do. I have spent so so many hours trying to prove myself to these people who literally can’t even notice progress I’m making, the current projects I’m working on, or even something special that happened between us. Where every conversation always seems like the first one we ever had. And it’s alarmingly that all this pain originates from one simple act, one simple belief.
If you notice that a person is not invested in you, long periods of time without communication, low initiation and consistency rates, easily forgets, or places your skills on a mediocre level, it’s time to walk away. Because not only are you allowing someone to degrade your worth, you are misrepresenting your worth for the next person that comes along as well.
Do the people in life believe in you?
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